Is that me?

I honestly can’t even count the number of times I’ve mentioned that as a common empathic characteristic and I’ve heard a sharp surprised inhale followed by a deep exhale and the words, “Oh my god—that is SO ME!”

 What happens for an empath is that we are awash in the feelings of the world.  If the people around us are having strong feelings—we feel those as though it is happening to us. We want to make it better.  For them (but also, for ourselves!  If they feel better so do we aren’t wallowing in it either!)  If thousands, or millions of people are feeling anguish—even if we are standing alone in our own living rooms we FEEL it.

 Without the tools to control our abilities we are sponges for the emotion of the world.

It’s can be paralyzing. 

What is also true is that there is also a rich, beauty to the empathic sensibilities.  Empaths understand– viscerally in their own bodies—that we are all connected.  That the pain of another effects everyone.  And we want to help.  The problem is that when you are stuck in feeling everyone else’s energy all the time it is virtually impossible to move—to see where your action point is in all of it.

Here’s the deal– when you can’t stay connected to your own thoughts and feelings but are awash in the sensations of others—you can’t help—you ARE more powerless than ever because the emotions of others are debilitating you in a way that makes it impossible to live YOUR life— let alone understand if there is an action point that you can take to ameliorate the suffering you sense.

Without tools and practices to manage your ability and sensitivity– everyone else’s energy is constantly in your space.  If one of those energies or emotions is particularly loud—it’s going to take over for you and be the loudest—like my student who was stymied by her husband’s anxiety.  

You need a way that you can hear yourself!  That you can remain connected to your own thoughts, feelings, sensations (even while in the midst of others) so that you can move down the road perfect for you—instead of being constantly overrun by everyone else’s ideas or notions of who you are, what is important, and what you should do.

FOREVER TOOLS

Recently I had a student ask me, “Is there ever a time where you feel you don’t need to use these core tools?  Like you are so on your game that you no longer need them?” 

To which I replied, “No. These tools are the practices that help me manage my empathic sensibilities (to be on my game!).  I’ve been using them for nearing 20 years—and I expect to use them for the rest of my life.”  I have students who studied with me nine-years ago that still send me emails or tell me on the street when they see me about how impactful these tools are in their life EVERY DAY.

Luckily, that’s what you’ve got here—lifetime, on-demand access to your Core Empathic Tools.  That means you can use it now, download whatever you would like from it, AND always come back to review it later whenever you need a refresher.